You’re walking through a park and catch a glimpse of a couple in the bushes; friends FaceTime you, wanting to put in on a show… so, would you watch?
I have a confession. I like to be watched. Last week, I was doing a yoga class with my wife in our home gym. She is a yoga instructor and was streaming it on zoom to about 30 people taking the class. At one point I noticed I was out of the camera shot. I didn’t like that, and immediately repositioned myself to make sure I was on camera and visible to the 30 other class participants. And I’m not even very good at yoga. My wife found this hilarious — “you’re such an exhibitionist”.
Does this translate to sex? You bet it does. But not as often … I really don’t want to impose my exhibitionism onto others. I have found, however, that when my wife and I have been in a hotel room, I will get a weird pleasure from having sex in front of the window, where I know someone could look up and see us. Once, very late at night, we deliberately at sex in the settee in the window of our hotel, looking down at people walking in the street. While — as I said, i don’t like to impose my exhibitionism on others, my thinking is that if people are looking into the windows of hotel rooms they kind of know what they are getting.
Telling this story to friends recently brought up an interesting discussion point. If given the opportunity, would you watch?
This led to a few scenarios.. some true and some imagined. A true one. Our friends were at a Caribbean resort a few years ago. It was a small resort with reasonable privacy on the beach. They were on their balcony overlooking the beach, and on one of the beach beds they saw a couple having sex. They did a double take, and as they looked the female of the couple locked eyes with them. She stared at them intensely, as she was having sex. So, what did our friends do? Initially they watched. But as they got more turned on, they thought ‘what the heck’. She slid off her bathing suit and he slid into her from behind. It was kind of quick, but for about 10 minutes, the two couples watched each other having sex. When it ended, neither said a word to the other. Our friends merely went back into their hotel room, and when they came out again the other couple was gone from the beach bed. Never saw them again.