Would You Give Your Spouse a Sexual Hall Pass

Chai Steeves
3 min readAug 31, 2022

And if you would, would it matter for whom it was for?

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We were sitting on a hillside watching a Sting concert. Pleasantly buzzed on a bottle of wine we were sharing, and with the sunsetting light hitting the stage just right, my wife said to me, ‘do you think he would ever invite me backstage?’

At 70 years old, Sting looked terrific. Yoga and tantric sex have kept him in phenomenal shape, and charisma oozes from his very being. Touring with his son, his longtime guitarist and that guy’s son, and his original drummer’s son, Sting is that rare combination of genius, gorgeous, and — seemingly — a really good guy.

So, yes, for Sting, I would give my wife a hall pass.

Like many couples, this is something we often discuss — always in gest. Who would we want a hall pass for (me — Mila Kunis), and who would you give one for (my wife — Sting and maybe Matthew McConaughey, before he seemed to go a little nuts)?

For us, even when it’s serious, it’s not. As fun as it is to fantasize about having sex with your favorite celebrity, in reality, we would never do the hall pass thing. While I don’t consider myself a jealous person, I think this might make me insecure. And my wife, while she loves sexual adventures, likes them when we share them. So the idea of being with someone…



Chai Steeves

eclectic guy - likes sexuality, politics, business, relationships, celebrity trivia...