What Makes a Man Cheat on His Wife?

It’s not the sex… sex is, in fact, not even very high on their lists

Maybe it’s the age I am, or perhaps it’s a reflection on the people I spend time with, but a lot of guys have confided in me lately about having cheated on their partners or a desire to cheat on them. So what the Hell is up with that?

It started about a month ago; an old buddy told me that he was getting increasingly tempted by advances made upon him by younger women. This friend is not what I would call a sexual guy; in fact, he’s confided to me in the past that he thinks he may be quasi-asexual. When I asked him why he was so tempted, he really couldn’t describe why, aside from saying that he’s more or less decided that, at some point, he will succumb to one of the many opportunities that come his way.

Why? It sure isn’t the sex. He even said he wants to have sex with someone else, even though, in all honesty, he doesn’t like sex all that much. What is it, then? It’s the desire to be desired. He’s a guy — like many of us — who grew up having a hard time attracting girls. He was a kind of dorky brainiac kid and, as a result, was in his 20s when he had his first girlfriend. We came into his own in his 20s, had a ‘normal’ number of girlfriends, and married a wonderful sexy woman. But he’s never forgotten when women wouldn’t give him a second look.