Remember When You Had To Work Really Hard to See Someone Naked?

Chai Steeves
3 min readSep 16, 2023

Are Twitter, Pornhub and OnlyFans desensitizing us to the thrill of nudity?

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I remember it like it was yesterday. I was about 13 years old and had accidentally walked in on my dad’s best friend and his wife as they were getting ready to come out to the pool for a swim. She pulled her bathing suit down and squeezed her breasts together, looking at him seductively. He was taking a picture of her.

What?!?! Aside from a very tiny number of glimpses I’d had of ‘adult’ magazines, I had never seen a bare boob in my life. This little flash was a thrill — one I would recall in fantasy so many times over those sex-obsessed teenage years.

Of a similar ilk, a close friend tells the story of her first job — in the pharmacy’s photo processing lab in the southern US. She and her colleague would excitedly flip through all the rolls of film that came in for processing, anxiously searching for those rare gems of nudity and sexual suggestiveness. And, every once in a rare while, they would hit pay dirt. A photo of a nude or lingerie-clad wife, or even the very occasional explicit sexual shot — it was enough to keep them going for weeks.

How times have changed.

We have indeed entered a golden age of amateur nudity. Between Twitter, Instagram, and…



Chai Steeves

eclectic guy - likes sexuality, politics, business, relationships, celebrity trivia...