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Is There A Better Way to Teach Sexual Power Exchange?
Helping your partner meet your Dom/sub desires
Nothing turns my partner on more than the idea of playing a sexually submissive role. She fantasizes about someone telling her what to do, and then her having to submit to these commands.
It’s a bit of a stereotype, but my partner is a strong-willed woman in a position of authority. She has a lot of power in most aspects of her life and likes to be in control. So, it’s not surprising, I suppose, that her sexual longing is to be released of some of that control and to do what is told of her.
I suspect this is a widespread fantasy for both men and women, but as you unpack it, you quickly see that it can be a little complicated to realize. Wanting to ‘give up control’ is a wide term, and you really need to understand what this means to your partner.
We’ve seen couples where the loss of control means being tied up and flogged to the point of bruising.
We’ve met another couple where it means — every weekend — her having every action directed by her partners. He tells her what to wear, what she can eat, and whether she can sit on the sofa or kneel at his feet as he decides what to ask of her next.
For us, it’s less than that. And this is where it gets tricky. My partner legitimately…
