Facebook versus OnlyFans — Exhibitionism in all its varying degrees

Chai Steeves
2 min readOct 9, 2023
Photo by Marvin Meyer on Unsplash

I have a thing for Miley Cirus. Her bad girl meets country girl meets ‘couldn’t give a sh*t what you think meets ‘I’m actually kind of sweet and thoughtful’ — that’s my kind of girl. So, whenever she shows up on my Facebook feeds in one of her sexy little outfits… well, that’s a good day.

I’ve never seen a photo of Miley (yeah, we’re on a first-name basis) naked, and I’m not sure I would want to, but she’s always alluringly sexy. Her posts tend to be shots or videos in bathing suits, sexy clubwear, or — and these are special days — lingerie. They’re not overly revealing, but she’s clearly reveling in the attention she knows these photos will draw.

Jumping to OnlyFans. I’ve only been on OnlyFans once. I know it is ubiquitous now and the go-to place for amateur porn, but until recently, I’d never checked it out. So, the other day, I dove in.

I won’t spend a lot of time explaining the OnlyFans experience because I suspect I was one of the few who didn’t know exactly what it was. So, in a nutshell, amateur women and a few men getting sexy, getting naked, and/or getting it on on-screen.

It made me think, what is the difference between Miley on Facebook and the men and women of OnlyFans? They are all simply trying to find an audience of everyday folks sitting in front of their screens, wanting to be entertained.

They’re all exhibitionists, putting themselves out there online and waiting for that positive response — the tiny endorphin rush from that like or subscription that validates that someone likes what they are putting out.

Then I thought — and what makes Miley and the OnlyFans girls any different from me, posting photos of my hiking trip, family dinner, or night out with friends? I came to conclude not one damn thing. We’re all attention wh&^es, exposing ourselves to the world in hopes of positive validation. Yet, people will be highly judging of someone who seeks that attention through nudity or sex, yet completely OK with flashing their exploits — if not their bodies — all over Facebook or Instagram.

When I post the photo of me getting to the top of that windswept mountain, I’m exposing my life in hopes that someone will see it, get that little endorphin rush of their own, and reward me with some positive feedback.

I’m an exhibitionist like all the rest of them. And so are you.



Chai Steeves

eclectic guy - likes sexuality, politics, business, relationships, celebrity trivia...