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Can Meditation Help Your Sex Life?
Ohmmmmm… yes
A good friend of mine was distraught that her sex life was tanking.
It had been weeks since she and her husband had had sex, and she couldn’t figure out exactly why. She said she still felt sexual and, often, horny. She would masturbate a couple of times a week, and she fantasized about sex quite frequently.
But when it came to having sex with her husband, she felt a little too keyed up for pure intimacy.
Masturbation was easy, as she could just put on a video and get herself off. Being with her husband felt more involved and complex, and got her head spinning.
When she shared this with me, she was clear — she loves her husband, and even finds him sexy. However, she leads an intense life — balancing work, parenting, and other responsibilities — and finds it challenging to calm her mind and fully engage in intimate moments with him.
I suggested meditation.
As she was describing her dilemma, I kept thinking that what was bothering her was not an issue with their relationship, or even a sexual problem.
Like so many people these days, she’d just gotten too busy and spinny to slow down and allow herself to relax into proper sex.
