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A Red Alert To All Couples: You Are In Your Sexual Prime… and you are forgetting that?

Chai Steeves
3 min readJan 11, 2025
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You’re in a couple, busy, and working hard to keep those balls in the air. Parenting, work, chores, getting to the gym — life is intense.

When you’re feeling busy — and you always will be — it’s easy to deprioritize sex.

The stats are bearing this out. Over a quarter of couples consider their lives sexless, meaning they have sex less than 10 times a year, with many of them reporting no sex at all. And it gets worse as we age. For couples in the 50s, 36% are in sexless relationships. And while a sexless relationship can be fine and fulfilling, I will argue that sex makes a relationship better… always.

When we’re in a relationship — especially once we’ve been in one for a while — it’s easy to fall into patterns and take one another’s companionship for granted. The energy we feel and put into the relationship diminishes over time. I suspect that it is this diminishment of dedicated energy that leads to sexlessness in the majority of cases. There will always be a reason not to have sex — tired; it’s not as exciting as it used to be; it doesn’t feel as good — but I believe sexlessness usually comes down to the couple simply not wanting it badly enough and their relationship having rebased to one that is simply less intimate and exciting.

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Chai Steeves
Chai Steeves

Written by Chai Steeves

eclectic guy - likes sexuality, politics, business, relationships, celebrity trivia...

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